Male pattern baldness is starting to show its effect on me. Every morning I freak out looking in the mirror and wait for the inevitable. But then some days back I ran into this article on Mashable which completely changed my outlook.
To give you the back story — a Reddit user snapped a picture of a Sikh woman named Balpreet Kaur (without her permission) and uploaded it on Reddit (needless to say again without permission). Balpreet has some facial hair which may seem odd to other people. When Balpreet came to know about this, she responded to it in a way that completely blew my mind. Below is small portion from her response —
…baptized Sikhs believe in the sacredness of this body – it is a gift that has been given to us by the Divine Being [which is genderless, actually] and, must keep it intact as a submission to the divine will. Just as a child doesn’t reject the gift of his/her parents, Sikhs do not reject the body that has been given to us. By crying ‘mine, mine’ and changing this body-tool, we are essentially living in ego and creating a seperateness between ourselves and the divinity within us. By transcending societal views of beauty, I believe that I can focus more on my actions. My attitude and thoughts and actions have more value in them than my body because I recognize that this body is just going to become ash in the end, so why fuss about it? When I die, no one is going to remember what I looked like, heck, my kids will forget my voice, and slowly, all physical memory will fade away. However, my impact and legacy will remain: and, by not focusing on the physical beauty, I have time to cultivate those inner virtues and hopefully, focus my life on creating change and progress for this world in any way I can. So, to me, my face isn’t important but the smile and the happiness that lie behind the face are…
I have actually met this girl and can confirm this. She also wears the traditional kirpans at all times. She is really cool actually.
Balpreet! You were in one of my chemistry classes last winter. Thanks for being so incredibly nice and helpful!
…I don’t know this girl personally but she is in my biology class and we attend the same university. she is never annoying, rude, or deserving of a picture of her to be plastered all over the internet…
This simply goes on to prove that it is because of her actions, there are so many people who are sticking up for her. You can even find Balpreet smiling on Twitter.
After reading the entire story I was forced to introspect. Forget about how was I judging other people, I was judging myself in the wrong way. We always look at ourselves with someone else’s eyes rather than our own which only leads to breaking down of our own confidence and self-respect. So from now on as far as my baldness goes — heck who cares! 🙂
Image credits: Quote in image